The inspiration started years ago when I was thrust back onto the singles market. I then lost faith in my devotion to technology. I learned that that focus would not insure a happy future. I was a person besides being a biological computer. I was socially shy not engaging people very easily. I existed as a software maven who was sought out after for his expertise. Now, I do not make this confession because I felt I was troubled anymore than you. I mention it because I feel it is time we drop our allusions and enjoying the world we live in.

Why was I denying so much of life? It did not make sense; if you want something you go for it. Looking inward does not disclose the solution. Was there a path to enlightenment or do you accept things as they are? This is my life and there is no reason to accept anything.

Looking into my faults only emphasized failure. Therapy meant subordinating to a shrink someone who needs to be paid for his company. We all need guidance but there come a time we need to stand alone. I took the advice of the Nike commercial and “just do it” I figured out what I wanted to accomplish and set upon the task. First was to get in shape, improve grooming and stand up straight. Working out, therapy and public speaking classes developed my representing being I showed the world.

I mention all of this because the book I am reading is offering me an understanding of how all the pieces fit together ‘The Mating Mind’ by Geoffrey Miller explains how sexual choice shaped the evolution of human nature.

The common understanding is the human mind developed because of Darwin’s “Survival of the Fittest.” A bigger brain was better at accomplishing survival tasks. Yet the brain we have had a consciousness, aptitude for the arts and a clearness that goes beyond coping with our physical world.

Darwin did offer clues to how our brains came about in his writing on sexual selection. Large brains are resources expensive and take many stages before it can contribute to our physical survival. Think of a bird’s wing, many generations passed before it is capable of actually allow a bird to fly. The early colorful mutations only served to attract a mate. Just like our brain.

A larger brain’s clever capability attracted mates much like a peacock’s tail. It required the males to outshow his competitors with a little dance and sweet sounds.

Reading this explained much of what I was learning in common experiences. I have heard the complaints by other males who focus mostly on technology that woman are irrational and dumb. Yet I thought if they are so dumb and irrational why do they get the better of us most of the time? Now if the brain was developed in this battle of the sexes, its true capability would be there. Now man’s conscious effort to control this situation would be similar to counting your steps on the dance floor, you are bound to step on somebody’s toes.