I am now adding web services on to my site from eBay and Amazon. Relationships require secrets. To pass information back and forth you need password such as the developer ID, application ID, certificate etc. etc. These shared secrets guarantee a secure interaction or trust.

In my life I have had little concern for secrets, at the age of two I would run down to the intersection in my birthday suit. Later in life, I made the mistake of proudly sharing with a friend’s wife her husband’s sexual exploits only to be greeted with shock and disbelief. I am still committed to the concept with the massive amount of information I’m posting on this site but hopefully know now when to cover up the essential parts.

It sure was easier with no secrets; for one I never cheat on partners, not out of commitment but to preservation of my world view. I could speak freely not worrying about exposing an inconsistency of deception. I accepted the words of others believing they had no secrets.

“Don’t worry honey; the scratches are from the zipper”
“Why are your wrists black and blue?”
…
“Oh, I see.”

The price was being walled outside the gated community of naughty people having the times of their lives or so I felt.

People are unwilling to share their indiscretion unless you confide. And if you have nothing to reveal you need to resort to some other method of discovery. Lately I have been dabbling in the black art of secrets and have found that when I confess I am countered with a confession ready to be told. How many other stores went untold?

I don’t want to be moralistic about this, who is to say what is good or bad? Life is very boring without hidden treasures. And just because we believe we have no secrets does not mean we are not keeping some from ourselves. For it is impossible to go through life without rationalize away some of our shortcoming.

I am still committed to disclosure, hiding my secrets in plain site. But I know now there are secrets in my life that I won’t readily disclose. For those parts of life need to remain a mystery and only revealed to those very dear.—like a root password.